Different Day

Every day, we all experience many of the same things – but we experience them in different ways. Take a trip through a regular day and start thinking about your own advantages and disadvantages – and hear real stories from celebs, experts and other young people along the way.

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You wake up. First of the month, rent is due! Are you worried about how you’re going to pay for food and rent this month?

What does it feel like?

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Ugh, you cut yourself while making breakfast, and today’s going to be a busy day. Since you don’t want anyone to notice the cut, will you be able to find a band aid that matches your skin color?

What does it feel like?

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You’re on your way to work and you’re wearing a new summery outfit that you’re really into. Does someone make an inappropriate comment about the way you look on the street?

What does it feel like?

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Congratulations! Your boss gave you a promotion. You hear some people gossiping about it. Are you worried that they think you got the promotion through flirting or even sex?

What does it feel like?

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Oh no – you just realized you lost your school ID this weekend, and now you’ve got to apply for a new one. They ask if you’re male or female. When you answer, do they ask for proof?

What does it feel like?

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You just got asked on a date tonight! They told you that it’s a formal event. Is this something you feel comfortable going to?

What does it feel like?

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You’re super excited about the person you’re going on a date with tonight and tell one of your coworkers about it. When they find out the details about who your date is with (like if they’re a guy or a girl), is there a chance that they’d judge you?

What does it feel like?

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You go out for lunch with some of your friends. They’re all planning a big trip to celebrate a friend’s birthday and expect you to come, and you really don’t want to be left behind. Can you afford to make it?

What does it feel like?

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At lunch with your friends, you talk about the college you got into. Does anyone say that you only got in because of your skin color?

What does it feel like?

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You go to the bathroom, which are labeled “men” and “women,” and choose the bathroom you feel is appropriate for you. Does anyone judge you or freak out when they see you in the bathroom?

What does it feel like?

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You’re feeling really good about work today and had a great idea, so you jumped at the chance to share it. Are you worried that people are thinking you’re being “bossy” or “bitchy?”

What does it feel like?

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Time for a coffee break with some new friends. You mention to them that you’ve got a date tonight. When you tell them the gender of your date, do they ask really personal questions about how sex would work between the two of you?

What does it feel like?

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You meet up with your date, and the two of you are holding hands. Yay! Are you at all concerned that people might freak out seeing the two of you together?

What does it feel like?

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Your date’s going great, until your mom tags you in a #TBT photo. Mom, that’s so embarrassing! When your date sees you as a little kid, is there a chance they might get angry that your gender now looks different than your gender in the photo?

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You’re finally almost home – but a police officer stops you. Can you be sure it isn’t because of the color of your skin?

What does it feel like?

Your day indicates that you might have advantages in:

Class privilege

Class privilege is the “tangible or intangible unearned advantages of higher-class status, such as personal contacts with employers, good childhood health care, inherited money, and speaking with the same dialect/accent as people with institutional power.” Some examples of class privilege include being able to “attend a “fancy” dinner without apprehension of doing something wrong or embarrassing the hosts” and that “people aren’t surprised if they realize you are intelligent, hard-working or honest.”

Find ways to use your privilege for good here.

What does not having class privilege look like?

White privilege

White privilege is not something that people necessarily do, create or take advantage of on purpose. Centuries of being the dominant group has led to certain advantages for white people that most aren't even aware they have -- like being able to turn on the television or open the paper and see people that look like you; no one questioning why you got that really great job or how you got into that prestigious university; and never being asked to speak for all the people who are the same race as you. According to James Baldwin, "being white means never having to think about it."

Find ways to use your privilege for good here.

What does not having white privilege look like?

Male privilege

Male privilege refers to the advantages granted to men within a society based solely on their sex or gender that are usually denied to women. Some ways that male privilege works include: never being denied an opportunity because of your gender, never being catcalled, and making more money than your professional counterparts of a different gender.

Find ways to use your privilege for good here.

What does not having male privilege look like?

Cis privilege

Cisgender privilege is “the unearned advantages that individuals who identify as the gender they were assigned at birth accrue solely due to their cisgender identity.” Examples of these advantages include no one questioning you when you go into the bathroom of your choice and no one accusing your ID of being fake because your gender expression on your ID doesn’t match your current gender expression.

Find ways to use your privilege for good here.

What does not having cisgender privilege look like?

Straight privilege

Straight privilege means living without having to think, face, confront, engage or cope with the offenses—big and small—LGBT people face. Some examples of straight privilege include "I never had to come out," "I never doubted my parents' acceptance of my sexuality," "I have never been called a derogatory slur" for someone who's LGBT, "I am always comfortable with PDA with my partner in public," and "I have never been told that my sexuality is 'just a phase.'"

Find ways to use your privilege for good here.

What does not having straight privilege look like?

These results are based on only a handful of hypothetical scenarios so your results may not always reflect your exact advantages. Different Day simply hopes to get you thinking about how privilege works.

We all have unearned advantages and disadvantages – because of our race, our gender, our sexual orientation, our class, and many other attributes – and those advantages and disadvantages mean that we see and experience the world differently. While we may not ask for these advantages, they can mean that we don’t always experience or even recognize the struggles that our friends might encounter every single day.

The first step in using your privilege to help others is to recognize how people without your privileges might be experiencing the world. For more ways to use your privilege for good, click here.

Special thanks to Peggy McIntosh and the National SEED Project.